Saturday, July 13, 2013

4 Keys to Dealing with Criticism

I watch Marie Forleo on Marie TV and her website Marie Forleo. She had a great Q&A Tuesday video about dealing with criticism. Now, I'm assuming and so is she, that this is negative criticism and not constructive criticism. Because the simplest way to handle constructive criticism is with a thank you.

She starts out by saying that everyone judges, even you judging yourself. This is true but it struck me as being completely contrary to what the Bible says and what is best for your self estime. The Bible tells us not to judge and to provide grace. If we were really following this, there wouldn't be a need to know how to deal with criticism. But this of course is part of our down fall as humans.

It’s easy to attack and destroy an act of creation. It’s a lot more difficult to perform one." – @ChuckPalahniuk via @MarieForleo

Yes, yes and YES. So be proud that you did something. Be even prouder that it was noted enough to be criticized.

She lists this great quote by Teddy Roosevelt and I love it so much that I felt the need to write it down.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the area, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat."

This did two things for me. First it made me realize that criticism is going to happen especially if you create/do something that is large enough to be noticed. The bigger it is, the more it will be noticed. Criticism should be taken as a compliment that you were noticed. Second it is okay to try and fail because at least you tried. She follow ups with another great quote.

"Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are."

Now if only I can keep this in my mind every time I receive criticism or especially more important, prevent my action because of the fear of receiving criticism.